This sums up my feelings in terms of the way politcians are looking in 2010. On all levels.
But, as a Democrat since the Reagan era in America — who is currently in exile from wherever my party seems to have gone, and as a Hillary Clinton supporter — I feel I have to speak my piece at this point. For women. Heterosexual women that is. Since my feminism relates to us.
“Danger, Will Robinson.”
“One is not born a woman, but becomes one.”
Simone de Beauvoir
Isn’t that the truth? Women who came of age during my generation post Roe v Wade sure did find that out. We came of age at the end of the whole sexual revolution that happened in the 1960’s. For us, that was the 1980’s. We had birth control at our disposal, and plenty of male partners to choose from. And they had us, so recently liberated, as it were.
Did they ever.
My generation used the term “patriarchy” a lot. Because, in the 80’s, armed with our degrees, we went to work and faced down what patriarchy means. I don’t know any women that haven’t had an abortion, because the man of their dreams didn’t want the baby. That happened to every girlfriend of mine. And it happened to me.
Those of us feminists who watched Hillary Clinton struggle during the Lewinsky scandal? Can you imagine our empathy for her as she stood proudly on the national stage in 2008?
That’s feminism for you. Her career is hers. This is a battle the second wave fought, for women.
Well, Bill Clinton had done something to her that is something the patriarchy thinks it can do. When it pleases.
Democratic feminists understand a woman’s plight. And struggle. How many women do you know that have been in bed with a man who said “I just don’t want to wear this condom. I can’t feel anything with it on.”
And then he proceeded to tear it off.
It’s an old chestnut to be even talking about these things, isn’t it?
No, not really.
This new crop of feminists calling themselves “grizzlies” are not feminists in terms of what has always been perceived as a vast sisterhood. The original sisterhood that women like Hillary Clinton worked for and understands was set up to care about exactly that. Sisters.
Feminists care what happens to women who are economically disadvantaged and cannot afford to bear children. Feminists would not ever say that it was okay to bear a child in the case of rape and incest. Feminists would want to ensure that birth control for women existed, and that women had access to family planning and education. It’s part of the code. Of what has been a sisterhood.
Now, as women we should all know that Roe v Wade gave a very convenient out to men. It really did. Because in my generation of men? Hardly any became fathers. They did not want to. They did not want the responsibility of that. This is on both the Republican and Democratic side of the story. Even the ones who became fathers? Didn’t stick around. For the most part.
They really didn’t.
All my women friends raised their children as single parents or were forced into second marriages. For economic reasons, when their husbands left.
So let’s look at facts.
Palin’s little wink and peep toe red shoes made the patriarchy drool for a time. But women see right through it. We really do. I can see now in retrospect what a very cagey little move McCain pulled by picking her to appeal to his male base. He tried to fool Democratic women, too. And I suppose we were fooled for a time, given all our disappointment over Hillary. And all the misogyny. And all the rest of it. Not to mention what Obama himself did when he gave her the finger and all the other things we saw.
In order to understand how the patriarchy operates? Look no further than Tiger Woods, Bill Clinton, John Edwards, Eliot Spitzer and so forth.
The patriarchy operates by entitlement, because they are men.
Actual feminists know that.
Pseudo-feminists aligned with this big co-opt deal post Hillary Clinton? Well?
You are not speaking to women’s issues in America.
Women are going to know that.
Especially women who have lived lives under patriarchy. Or women who have had multiple relationships with men, like most women I know. We live in an era where there is no nuclear family, anymore. A woman’s right to choose for herself her own destiny came from the early suffragettes and their ideas. The feminist movement was crystallized in the 60’s, lived out for real during the 80’s, and now we have now.
Given the statistics on poverty in the country at present? The lack of jobs for men and women? How do you suppose that trying to take away women’s rights any further than you have is going to help any woman in 2010?
What would be nice is if there could be some truthiness to the collapsed concept of a sisterhood. I expect the women in the Baby Boom proper are collectively rattled and pissed in the moment. It would be nice to see people like Oprah and Whoopi take this on.
In the meantime, a pertinent read…
Taylor Marsh (who I learned of back in 2008, from Riverdaughter’s blog at The Confluence). She wrote this piece for The Huffington Post.
But no one should be able to take a woman’s freedom away from her, which is what Sarah Palin and her feministic followers want to do. Anyone who tries to strip women of our individual freedoms is not for women’s rights, but also against women’s freedoms, and they most certainly aren’t a feminist in any real, true or important manifestation of the word.
Freedom is not just for men.
Human rights are women’s rights, which include individual freedom, which no one has the right to abridge.
Yesterday I posted a series of videos of Republican women and their views on incest and rape and abortion.
It’s a good idea to watch those snippets. In 2010.
If you are an American woman, and you are heterosexual, you had best concern yourself with what is calling itself feminism circa 2010.
Because you see, the patriarchy will be having its way with you as well, one of these days.
Actually? Given what we saw happen to Hillary Clinton during the last election?
I really wouldn’t want to be in your generation right now. Mine was difficult enough to have to live through.