What a fantastic video these kids made! Well, they aren’t kids but, they are just starting out and I can see that the feminist argument my generation had about “domination” over women hasn’t changed. They did such a great job in the video above exploring that.
What the Second Wave of feminists was striving for was “equal participation” or “equality” with males.
A lot of women in my generation did not want to be just housewives. The part of the video above that shows what the man is expecting when he comes home and wants food, and what he says to her, is what terrified a lot of girls in my generation. We didn’t want to be just cooks taking care of everyone else. Maybe we wanted to share cooking with our male partners?
I loved watching this classic situation in the video above circa 2010.
When I was at Pacifica getting my degree I wrote my MA Thesis on the film “The Piano.”
What this movie was about for me, was an ecopsychology of the feminine. If the kids in the video above watch this they can see that there are two models at work in the triangle between Ada and Stewart and Baines.
Baines is the guy that is understanding of her.
Stewart is like the guy in the kitchen, telling her what to do.
And which guy does she go for?
So, we can see in 2010, all this plastic littering the earth as an example of what the “dominator” mentality has done. The little video is so great — because they show this so perfectly.
People are so unclear about what Feminism meant for heterosexual women in the Second Wave. It was the same argument the Fourth Wave is having in the video above. All we wanted was to be heard. We didn’t want to be UNheard. We didn’t want to stand in a kitchen and wait for him to come home. We were not submissive.
Were we wanting to participate equally in relationships with men?
Yes.
Did we want to say what we wanted to do with our bodies?
Yes.
I was just like these two girls in college — in the 1980’s. Just like them. I want to try and tell them what life will hold for them as women as they travel down the path of womanhood, males and relationships. I can’t, but I can tell them that they are doing what we used to call “The Sisterhood,” proud. By making that video, and thinking these thoughts. Watching them made me smile. And feel some hope, too.
We didn’t want guys to be women? We wanted them to be guys? We were the women!
Except that, in my part of the feminist movement we had to go to work, and act like men.
It’s not what we had planned per se.
What we did not want is depicted in this video below. Here you can see what patriarchy likes to think…
My generation?
Well, we got those educations and went to work. On purpose.
VALENTINE BONNAIRE - WRITER 