What is a family secret?  In therapy we know that some family systems hold belief systems that certain things are okay.

Family secret

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For other uses, see Family Secret (disambiguation).

A family secret is a secret kept within a family. Most families have secrets, but the kind and importance vary. Family secrets can be shared by the whole family, but some family members or kept by an individual member of the family. The secret can relate to taboo topics, rule violations or just conventional secrets. Issues like homosexuality, adultery, divorce, mental health, crime, substance abuse, physical or psychological abuse, human sexual behavior, premarital pregnancy or cohabitation, alcoholism, or deviance. More simple secrets may be personality conflicts, death, religion, academic performance and physical health problems.^[1] Any topic that a family member thinks may cause anxiety may become a family secret. Family members often see keeping the secrets as important to keeping the family working, but over time the secrets can increase the anxiety in the family.^[2] The confidentiality of family secrets revealed by a patient is a common ethical dilemma for counselors and therapists.^[1]

What a therapist does is lift the lid on what may be wrong.  When dealing with FAMILY SECRETS.

I’m going to do that today, as regards the stances Republican women are taking on Rape and Incest. Because?  In a civilized country no person would agree with their moral stance on not allowing women to have an abortion if they were traumatized in a case such as these.  Now, I really have to wonder about the Republican Party in this moment.  I do.  They are against abortion, so they say, but let’s look at this document I found the other day.  It goes all the way back to the Nixon era:

Population control marched on triumphantly during and beyond the Nixon Administration. After the Supreme Court legalized abortion nationwide in 1973, population controllers pressed hard, and often successfully, for public subsidy of abortions for poor women. Because they presented this as a humanitarian good, eugenicists were able to get credit for doing what they had always done: suppressing the birth rate of poor people and non-whites.

Although the Ronald Reagan and the George H. W. Bush administrations tried to hold the line against surgical abortion, they supported widespread contraception and sterilization and the distribution of birth-control methods that are partly-abortifacient–both at home and abroad. The William Clinton administration worked unceasingly for more population control abroad, helped introduce the French abortion pill called RU-486 to the United States, and defended even the horrific “partial-birth” or D & X abortions. The George W. Bush administration returned to the pattern of the Reagan and the senior Bush administrations.

I suggest the Republican Party consider the era Roe was passed?  And Nixon.

Tape Reveals Nixon’s Views On Abortion

I suggest you listen to what Nixon said in that era.  About women and their pregnancies.

I have never read anything SICKER than this article below on Republican Women of the present day.  And I can tell you something too.  It has to be the Republican party’s guilt over Roe that has filtered down to the outcome that women who have suffered rape and incest can’t have an abortion.

You must be a very, very sick batch of women if you believe in Rape and Incest as something that is God’s word.

A therapist would wonder whether you had been raped or incested yourselves?  Because only someone without any boundaries would say that that was acceptable.  Here is the Huffington Post.

While much of the 2010 election is focused on the economy, there’s another issue quietly simmering which underscores a shift in the Republican Party: abortion. Specifically, an increasing number of GOP candidates — especially ones receiving heavy support from the Tea Party movement — not only oppose abortion, but want to bar women who have been victims of rape or incest from having access to the procedure.

Dianne Edmondson of the Republican National Coalition (RNC) for Life told The Huffington Post that there are absolutely more candidates this election cycle opposing abortion without exceptions. Each election cycle, her political action committee, founded by Phyllis Schlafly, submits questionnaires to GOP House candidates about their positions on choice issues and then endorses candidates who advocate a strict no-abortion platform. “I know that we have many more candidates responding to us this year than we did in the last election cycle — probably about three times as many — and I’d say at least half of them do meet that criteria,” she said. “The rest are pro-life to one extent or another.”

Sarah Palin considered having an abortion.

http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2009/04/17/AR2009041703184.html

Alaska Gov. Sarah Palin told an antiabortion audience in Indiana on Thursday night that, “for a fleeting moment,” she considered having an abortion after learning that her son Trig would have Down syndrome.

The experience, she added, “now lets me understand a woman’s, a girl’s temptation to maybe try to make it all go away.”

Ultimately, Palin said, she decided she had to “walk the walk” concerning her long-standing antiabortion views. She avoided using the word “abortion” in her speech, preferring the phrase “change the circumstances.”

“I had just enough faith to know that my trying to change the circumstances wasn’t any answer,” said Palin, the featured speaker before 3,000 people at a banquet in Evansville.

As the Republican Party’s vice presidential candidate last year, Palin said little about her son’s condition or the circumstances surrounding his birth. Her reticence prompted wild, Internet-fueled allegations about Trig’s parentage, rumors that still stung the governor two months after the election, when she called the media’s reporting on her family “very scary.”

She also refused to disclose her health records, breaking an unwritten rule of presidential politics.

Is this what the Republican Party condones?

Is it?

Think before you vote.

Two years ago I wrote a piece on Incest.  Here is is again.

A note about sexual trauma, which is the worst trauma that can be inflicted — so this is cautionary and needs to be understood.  Very Important.  VERY.

Imagine that the “egg” we were talking about as the Self — is in your hand.  NOW CRUSH IT.  Now look at your hand, and what has happened to the egg.  This kind of trauma destroys the SELF.  The shell of the egg is what we call a “BOUNDARY” in therapy.  There are many types of boundaries but people who have experienced this — it is the WORST POSSIBLE VIOLATION TO THE SELF THAT CAN HAPPEN.  THE WORST.

I’m going to tell you a story about someone I knew at school.  She was a person who had experienced this as an infant in the crib, by her father.  I met her my first weekend, because we sat next to each other in a lecture hall.  We were asked to do an imaginal exercise with the person next to us.  I’ll never forget it.  It was the most potent and frightening thing that could have happened to me, EVER!  It was my baptism into what being a therapist would be like.

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You can read the rest, by clicking the link.  If you can stomach it.

You are disgusting to me, women of the Republican Party.

And?

Your political party had best look into the histories of the women you are supporting?

Do John McCain and Mitt Romney hold this position as well?

Or is it just the women in your political party?

note——- I am reposting this, and I have lined through the words I think were censored in the web.  I did not strike those words on purpose.  I meant every word I said.